Gay was a person who rarely revealed her inner thoughts. Yes, she lived her life by maxims she freely expressed, like, "Where there's a will, there's a way ... you just have to find it!" but often nothing deeper. After Alzheimer's began to shadow her life, it seemed to release some inhibitions and she shared a few of her more personal takes on life. Two of these are shared to reflect how determined she was to lead a narrowly defined life of high standards, as well as a more poetic side to her thoughts.
When asked how she had come to live such a long life, she replied, "You think I have? Well, I do everything I'm supposed to do. I try to do everything to the best of my ability. But you know, it's a lot like rolling a ball (she pantomimes) ... it goes one way and you have to do everything you can to steer it this way (indicating a different path for the ball to take)."
Her husband, Warren Vollmert, was "tall, dark and handsome" and a wonderful dancer, which went very well with Gay's "five feet two and eyes of blue!" and her love of dancing. So after more than 60 years of marriage, it was heartbreaking as well as heartwarming when she made this reply to, "Did you ever marry?" "No, I never got to marry Warren ... but I'd sure like to! Warren is a beautiful man. He's about 22 years old and a wonderful friend. He's not my husband, but I'd love for him to be. He's dependable. He always has something spicy to talk about. You don't have to dig under an orchard tree to find something to talk about!"
Please come join Gay's family in a celebration of her life at 10:30 a.m. Wednesday, May 17, in the Delta City Cemetery. Her children, Lisa Vigil, Barry (JoAnn) Vollmert, Mark (Mary) Vollmert and Larraine Pallas would love to hear your stories and memories.